Relationship tips for people with anxiety

Posted by on Jul 5, 2019 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

Relationships can be stressful. From the very first date you might be worrying, ‘Do I look ok in this outfit?’, ‘What if there are awkward silences during dinner?’ and ‘Is he/she going to like me?’ And it gets more complicated from there, because being in a relationship, getting to know someone and building intimacy requires being vulnerable. This is hard for anyone. 


Now lets add on top of that, you are a person who already wrestles with high anxiety or an anxiety disorder.  If you, your partner or both of you have anxiety, it can make it even harder to have a strong and healthy relationship.

Below are a few tips to help keep your relationship strong if you or your partner has anxiety.


Communication is Key

Anxious thoughts are extremely personal and you might be tempted to avoid talking about it with your partner.  But it’s important to remember, the tough conversations are what will bring you closer. One of the most effective ways to cope with anxiety in a relationship is to be open, honest and direct with your partner about it and about how they can best support you when you are feeling anxious.


Learn Together

It can be very difficult for someone who has experienced significant anxiety to understand how it feels. Explaining what it feels like to have intense anxiety can also be hard to convey. Share some articles or websites that help describe what your anxiety feels like and look at them together. Let your partner ask you questions to help clarify what it feels like to be in your shoes. 


Boundaries are Important
Talking is healthy, but talking over and over about the same thing can be draining on your partner. If your partner sets some boundaries with you when it comes to your anxious feelings, know that it is not because your partner does not love or care for you. Boundaries are important to enhance your relationship, not to push against it. This will help to keep the connection strong.


Focus on Them

When you are feeling anxious, it can almost feel like a bubble that you can’t get out of. Those thoughts bounce around you and consume you, and it can sometimes lead to neglecting your partner’s needs. One way to pull yourself out of that bubble is to focus on someone you care about and making him or her happy.  Take some time to give your partner attention, gratitude affection, touch or have conversations just about him or her.


And the most important thing to remember… always… is that you are not defined by your anxiety and there is plenty of good that comes with loving you, regardless.

The Benefits of Private Yoga

Posted by on Jan 15, 2019 in Blog From The Experts | 0 comments

Perhaps one of your New Year’s resolutions this January is to get your health back on track.  Yoga could be a great option for you as it can help with anxiety, depression, sleep, chronic pain, flexibility… the list goes on. But joining a yoga class can be intimidating, especially if you are new to yoga.  You may not have thought about doing a private yoga class (just you and your instructor), or you may have thought about it and decided that it’s not worth the money.  I would like to take a minute to discuss how amazing one-on-one yoga can be.

Private space to discuss your health history:
In a group class, it can be difficult to catch your instructor alone to discuss any injuries, surgeries or illnesses you may have. Even if you can tell the instructor before class, he or she may not be able to take class time to help you with specific modifications. In a private session, you can discuss this and he or she can help you modify poses or offer alternatives until you can do them on your own.  Yoga can be good for anybody -and any body-, but it can be a much more rewarding practice when your instructor understands your specific needs.

Get exactly what you want and nothing you don’t:
Just like a fitness coach, when you pay for private instruction you get the undivided attention of a trained professional who will get to know your body and your needs and create a routine specifically for you. That might mean working specifically on deep stretching poses for increased hip flexibility, or the right pose adjustments for your knees, or a focus on breath work to help with anxiety.  Those needs may even change session to session, and your instructor will communicate with you on what you need that day.

Feel confident in group classes:
Not only can it feel overwhelming to go to a big yoga class, it can be risky if you are a novice. A big class will likely have students of all experience levels, and it can be hard to always keep an eye on the instructor for guidance on poses. Following others in the class could lead you to doing a pose incorrectly. This could leave you open to injury.  Having a few private lessons will help you learn the proper way to get in and out of every pose safely. It will also be a more enjoyable class if you are less focused on form, and more focused on being present and enjoying your yoga practice.


Battling Winter Boredom at Home

Posted by on Jan 5, 2019 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

We all know the feeling that comes around during January where the Holidays are over, so now what? It’s cold outside and we are more inclined than ever to just sit around inside. You also could be battling Seasonal Depression, which makes getting anything done even more difficult. Here is a list of things you can do inside that will also help you get moving and stay moving.


Organize a Section of Your Home

Whether it is a closet or the top of your fridge, clearing out old junk and organizing the more cluttered part of your home can give you a sigh of relief. Sometimes self-care is not always spa days and massages, it is in part keeping your environment tidy as well. Don’t wait until Spring time when you would rather be outside, you might as well just get it done now while it is cold out!


Learn Some at Home Workouts

Getting to the gym, like everything else when it is cold, is even more difficult. Picking up some new at home workouts can be a solution to this. There are many learning tools at hand for you such a YouTube. The term “workout” does not necessarily always include weights. It can be things like calisthenics or yoga which are much more accessible in your own home.



The times where you are stuck inside are perfect for cooking or baking! Try out some new recipes you have been meaning to learn or make some old favorites.


Plan a Night In

Having a night in with some of your closest friends can be very stress-relieving. You can keep it simple, maybe just dinner or even appetizers and drinks. Using this time of the year to catch up with those around you can really lift your spirits.



Getting Ready for The New Year

Posted by on Dec 26, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

It seems that every year there is the expectation of the classic, “New Year’s Resolution.” This can come with a lot of pressure, and as we all know, a lot of people find it difficult to follow through. A lot of times, this is because when someone promises to make a change, sometimes they just aren’t physically, mentally, and spiritually thinking through the change.

New Year’s Resolutions are great if they are truly thought out and taken seriously. Even if you have good intentions, it is easy to look over the logistics of your decision.

While it is important to make a realistic goal, you also need to make sure you aren’t talking yourself out of something that could be a good change. Just because something is going to be difficult and require a lot of effort and planning, doesn’t mean you should avoid it. The key in a successful New Year’s Resolution is to plan, be prepared for change, and stay consistent. They say that a habit only takes 21 days to form, so by that rate, you will be on a better track before the end of January!

Recipe of the Week

Posted by on Dec 11, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

Black Bean Green Pepper Salsa

1 Onion
1 Green Pepper
6 Baby Bella mushrooms
½ Cup Frozen Corn
1 Can of Drained and Rinsed Black Beans
12 Cherry Tomatoes Sliced in Half
1 Avocado
1 tsp.Cumin
1 tsp. Chilli Powder
Salt to taste
Lime Juice to taste

Dice the onion and pepper and saute it water with cumin and chili powder until the pepper are soft. Add the mushrooms, frozen corn and black beans. Cook for a few minutes then add the cherry tomatoes.

Serve in a bowl topped with the avocado, salt to taste and add fresh squeezed lime.

Enjoy! This is super simple and quick!

** Tip: Do not add salt during the cooking process, just add it at the end. You will end up using so much less salt!

Dealing with Changing Life Stages

Posted by on Nov 9, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

As you have gotten older, you have probably noticed your life becoming very different as each chapter unfolds. For example, as we get older and life goes on, it is harder to stay in contact with dear friends. These transitions can be difficult and lonely at times. It can be tough to accept the fact that every day life can be tirelessly mundane and boring at times. This is how people get stuck in “the good old days” and don’t necessarily enjoy the stage they are at.

There is no getting around the idea that life is going to change. Not only within yourself, but the people around you will also change, grow, move, have kids, get married, etc. Trying to stay in the past will ultimately hinder your future. It is important to be thankful for today. Living in the present moment is all we can do because nothing else is certain, and the past is the past.

If you are currently in a stage of life where you are in a transitional period, enjoy that too. You have so much to look forward to. However, even enjoying the thought of the future only can negatively affect this present moment. Be excited for the future, but do not put all of your happiness in one place.

Learn from today, and never miss an opportunity to learn something new. Our lives can change in 5 seconds, so be grateful for what we have today. This in turn will make life’s crazy changes easier to cope with, and hopefully make it easier for you to continue to learn and grow.

Comfort Zone

Posted by on Oct 31, 2018 in Blog From The Experts | 0 comments

They say that the magic happens outside of your comfort zone. However, stepping out of our comfort zones can be a very difficult thing to muster up. At times, it can feel like you’re just stuck in one place. How can we teach ourselves to be the brave g0-getters we so heavily admire?

The very first thing to do is accept that you are going to be uneasy at first. Doing something that strays away from our everyday norms is almost always the harder choice. If we can accept this uncomfortable feeling and embrace the change, you will be in a mindset that sets you up for success.

Something else that might help you, is to sit down and assess your goal. What resources do you need to achieve it? Time? Money? Support? Once you have a clear path, the anxieties associated with the unknown will slowly slip away. Planning is a great way to combat anxiety in general. If you are unsure how to do what you need to do, talk to someone you are close to and get their advice. Learning what you need to do and setting a realistic timeline will make any life transition much easier to digest.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Posted by on Oct 8, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

We all know someone affected by Breast Cancer. Whether it is themselves, or a loved friend or family member, it is know to affect 1 in 8 women. Breast Cancer is also the second leading cause of death for women. However, this disease not only falls upon women, but it is known to develop in men, although rare. Awareness is important for everyone, because some people may come across a lump, but dismiss it. According to the World Health Organization, breast cancer is the most common cancer among women worldwide, claiming the lives of hundreds of thousands of women each year and affecting countries at all levels of modernization. This disease being worldwide is the reason awareness is so important. Learning the facts and symptoms can help save lives.


According to, genetic factors include: 

  • Gender:  Breast cancer occurs nearly 100 times more often in women than in men.
  • Age:  Two out of three women with invasive cancer are diagnosed after age 55.
  • Race:  Breast cancer is diagnosed more often in caucasian women than women of other races.
  • Family History and Genetic Factors:  If your mother, sister, father or child has been diagnosed with breast or ovarian cancer, you have a higher risk of being diagnosed with breast cancer in the future. Your risk increases if your relative was diagnosed before the age of 50.
  • Personal Health History:  If you have been diagnosed with breast cancer in one breast, you have an increased risk of being diagnosed with breast cancer in the other breast in the future. Also, your risk increases if abnormal breast cells have been detected before (such as atypical hyperplasia, lobular carcinoma in situ (LCIS) or ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS)).
  • Menstrual and Reproductive History:  Early menstruation (before age 12), late menopause (after 55), having your first child at an older age, or never having given birth can also increase your risk for breast cancer.
  • Certain Genome Changes:  Mutations in certain genes, such as BRCA1 and BRCA2, can increase your risk for breast cancer. This is determined through a genetic test, which you may consider taking if you have a family history of breast cancer. Individuals with these gene mutations can pass the gene mutation onto their children.
  • Dense Breast Tissue:  Having dense breast tissue can increase your risk for breast cancer and make lumps harder to detect. Several states have passed laws requiring physicians to disclose to women if their mammogram indicates that they have dense breasts so that they are aware of this risk. Be sure to ask your physician if you have dense breasts and what the implications of  having dense breasts are.

Moods Changing with the Seasons

Posted by on Sep 19, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

The longer you live, the more you may start to notice just how much the seasons can affect our mood. If you really dive in, it makes perfect sense. There are so many changing factors that we tend to feel changes in more areas than just the weather outside. For example, family may be coming in for the holidays, our weight fluctuates, and kids are in and out of school.

How do we cope with these changes that come with the seasons? Take the time to carve out a routine that works for you. Sometimes, having a set schedule that we enjoy can help us feel at ease in a chaotic and changing world. This includes adding in leisure activities you enjoy along with the work.

Also, embrace the change. Accept that the world around you is going to change, but that certain things can still be controlled. Having the mindset of living in the present can make the colder weather feel much more comfortable.

Mental Health Stigma for Men

Posted by on Aug 21, 2018 in Hot Topics | 0 comments

Mental health as a whole can be a touchy subject for anyone. In the recent years, people are more likely to speak out about their struggles. However, it was not up until recently that the fact men have a worry of sharing their struggles has come to light. The fact is that everyone goes through something, and it is not limited by gender, race, or age.

As a whole and as a community, it is important that any demographic that is under-represented get its proper attention. Unfortunately, one thing that gets set aside often times, is how men are dealing with their emotions and lives.


How Can Men Help Other Men?

Feeling alone when you are going through a tough time in life makes the situation 100% harder. As a man going through something, simply talking about it with the other men around you can really help them. It may be difficult at first, but the more communication that is among a group of people, the better the understanding.

Problems arise when we try to put on a front for someone. The people around us normally know us pretty well, and even if we think we are doing a good job of hiding it, they can usually tell how we’re feeling. If we are all honest about how we’re feeling to ourselves and the people around us, the less it will fester in our minds. It also helps with dealing with something head-on, rather than trying to tiptoe around the problem to hide it from our friends or family.


We have said it before and we’ll say it again: seeking help does NOT make you weak. Counseling can help improve your life in ways you did not even know was possible. The more we share our stories and have empathy for the people around us, the better off we all will be.